Lesson 4: Return To Our Roots

Modern parenting has moved away from our evolved instincts, leaving many parents overwhelmed by conflicting advice.
Baby pottying is part of a gentle, responsive approach to parenting that supports secure, confident children while promoting healthy bladder and bowel development.
Unlike mainstream toilet training, baby pottying is non-coercive and gradual — it works with baby’s biology and relies on presence, patience, practice, and respect.
As your baby develops, I encourage you to revisit different sections of this guide—offering fresh clarity, reassurance, and confidence at each stage of your journey.

The last few generations have undergone a radical transformation in parenting practices. The instincts shaped by evolution to keep babies alive and thriving have been pushed aside. It’s really confusing for parents, with so much contradictory advice.
Baby pottying is one piece in a larger puzzle of kind and nurturing parenting, to cultivate secure and confident children. It opens up a new avenue to tune in and respond to your baby’s primal needs. And as the evidence shows, early potty learning is good for bladder and bowel health.
Unlike the mainstream approaches which encourage no learning until the point of ditching nappies all at once, baby pottying is gentle, non-coercive and builds on nature’s design. It takes presence, patience, practice and respect.
My aim is to provide inspiration and guidance to help you access our ancestors' wisdom – this time grounded in scientific evidence.
There’s a lot of content in this guide, and it’s designed to grow with you. As your baby develops, I encourage you to revisit different sections—offering fresh clarity, reassurance, and confidence at each stage of your journey.
1. Joinson, C., et al. 2009. A prospective study of age at initiation of toilet training and subsequent daytime bladder control in school-age children. Journal of Developmental & Behavioral Pediatrics, 30(5), pp.385–393.